The Culture of Life Honors Parents and Respects the Elderly
The Culture of Life Honors Parents
The culture of life recognizes that all earthly institutions derive their proper authority from the office of fatherhood. That is why Luther explained the Fourth Commandment, “Honor your father and your mother,” to mean that we also should respect other superiors, including civil government. As Luther remarked in his Large Catechism, “All authority flows and is propagated from the authority of parents” (LC I, 141).
The culture of life respects fathers for their divinely established office of leadership, provision, and protection. God calls upon and equips men to lead, provide for, and protect their wives and children. Godly husbands honor their wives as they “dwell with them with understanding” (1 Peter 3:7). A godly man provides for his household—but if he refuses, then Scripture labels him “worse than an unbeliever” (1 Timothy 5:8). Most importantly, a godly man brings up his children “in the training and admonition of the Lord” (Ephesians 6:4).
The culture of life honors the authority God has bestowed upon fathers to serve the people whom God has entrusted to their care. Abortion, says the Supreme Court of this land, is a woman’s issue.1 But pregnancy, says the culture of life, is a man’s issue, for God calls upon husbands to serve their wives as loving heads of household (Ephesians 5:25; Colossians 3:18) and to protect and provide for their children’s needs.
The culture of life honors mothers for their divinely established office of bearing and nurturing the young. Solomon admonished, “Do not forsake the law of your mother” (Proverbs 1:8). Children do not outgrow this responsibility, for this command applies also “when she is old” (Proverbs 23:22). St. Paul trained Titus to exhort the older women to mentor the younger women in their important work as wives and mothers (Titus 2:1–5). As God “opens and closes wombs,” He determines when to make a woman into a mother (Genesis 29:31; 1 Samuel 1:5). For those whom God blesses with the vocation of motherhood, Scripture identifies their sanctified lives as being “saved in childbearing if they continue in faith, love, and holiness, with self-control” (1 Timothy 2:15). Just as Timothy’s mother Eunice and grandmother Lois nurtured him in the Christian faith, so also God employs God-fearing mothers to fulfill priestly duties within their homes (2 Timothy 1:5; cf. 1 Peter 2:9).
In, with, and under fatherhood and motherhood, God the Heavenly Father distributes His blessings of daily bread, both physical and spiritual. Amazingly, God blesses people even through inadequate earthly parents. God calls upon us, therefore, to respect the office of parenthood and to recognize, even in the quirky personalities of some parents, the divine office of parental blessings—what Luther called “a majesty there hidden” (LC I, 106). Recognizing God’s special callings for both fathers and mothers, the culture of life honors parents.
The Culture of Life Respects the Elderly
The honor that children owe to their parents does not end when children become adults or when parents become grandparents. Nor does this honor consist of mere lip service. As Luther explains in the Large Catechism:
We show them such honor also by works, that is, with our body and possessions, that we serve them, help them, and provide for them when they are old, sick, infirm, or poor, and all that not only gladly, but with humility and reverence, as doing it before God. For [the person] who knows how to regard them in his heart will not allow them to suffer want or hunger, but will place them above him[self] and at his side, and will share with them whatever he has and possesses. (LC I, 111)
In the culture of life, one’s first reaction is not to put Grandma in a nursing home, but to open one’s own home: to meet her needs, to share her burdens, and to celebrate the blessings God places in her life (cf. 2 Samuel 9). The “majesty there hidden” does not fade with age; rather, as the Proverb teaches us, “The silver-haired head is a crown of glory, if it is found in the way of righteousness” (Proverbs 16:31). True, “the glory of young men is their strength,” but the Scriptures also teach that “the splendor of old men is their gray head” (Proverbs 20:29).
Let us not think lightly of the fact that Jacob blessed his children and his children’s children when he was well advanced in years (Genesis 49). Young King Rehoboam, on the other hand, foolishly neglected the sage advice of his elders in favor of the youthful generation’s short-sighted plans (1 Kings 12:6–15).
The culture of life respects human life at all its stages, recognizing that those who have lived long and well have much to offer those who are just beginning their journeys on this earth. Not only should the young respect the aging, but the elderly should also respect themselves with the honor God says is due them. If Grandpa is too weak to work, he is not too weak to pray. Let us cherish our parents and grandparents as they intercede on our behalf and pass down to their children’s children the wisdom of the Lord.
In the face of grave illness, the culture of life acknowledges that God alone determines the length of our days. He granted King Hezekiah fifteen additional years (Isaiah 38:5). “My times,” wrote the psalmist, “are in Your hand” (Psalm 31:15). Christ healed the sick, raised the dead, and proclaimed a living Gospel for this world and the next. Thus we pray, “Deliver us from evil,” which Luther expounds as follows:
We pray in this petition . . . that our Father in heaven would deliver us from every evil of body and soul . . . and at last, when the hour of death shall come, grant us a blessed end, and graciously take us from this valley of sorrow to Himself in heaven. (SC, Seventh Petition)
To protect our lives until the day that God chooses to be our last, the LORD has given the Fifth Commandment: “You shall not kill.” The culture of life recognizes that “mercy killing,” despite its friendly name, is murder; genuine mercy comforts the soul with Word and Sacrament and cares for the body as best one can. But to kill is to take away what God has given, to injure what God seeks to protect, to cut short what God has measured more abundantly than we can ask or imagine (cf. Ephesians 3:20).
When, however, God has made clear that someone’s death is imminent, then the culture of life teaches an acceptance of His will. The culture of life does not seek to preserve a life that no longer can be preserved, but rather to respect both God’s gift of life and God’s timing for death. Life is ours to protect and cherish, but it is God’s to prolong and God’s to end (Deuteronomy 32:39 and Psalm 31:15).
Amid difficult situations, the culture of life remembers that neither the avoidance of suffering for oneself nor the avoidance of watching a loved one suffer should be the highest priority. Instead, the culture of life discovers comfort in the face of tragedy by recalling the redemptive purpose of Christ’s suffering (Hebrews 13:12). Suffering is real. Suffering is difficult. Even so, “the sufferings of this present time are not worthy to be compared with the glory which shall be revealed in us” (Romans 8:18).
In the culture of life, therefore, we “fear and love God, so that we do no bodily harm to our neighbor, but help and befriend him in every need” (SC, Fifth Commandment). This we do for the sick as much as for the healthy, for the weak as much as for the strong, for the old as much as for the young. The culture of life respects the elderly.
Dr. Ryan C. MacPherson is the founding president of The Hausvater Project. He lives with his wife Marie and their homeschool children in Mankato, Minnesota, where he teaches American history, history of science, and bioethics at Bethany Lutheran College. For more information, visit www.ryancmacpherson.com.
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